Do we really have to move on?

There are many people who left our lives, with or without an actual reason and is it really necessary to 'move on'? After every break up I hear people say, I think it's time to move on. What do you mean by that? Force yourself to stop loving that person? Force yourself not to care about them? Force yourself to take them out of your mind? Do you think that's the right way to deal with life? You can distract your thoughts only for a short span of time. Those thoughts will keep coming back to you when your mind becomes ideal. So telling yourself to 'move on' will never work out. For either one of the person, it'll still be stuck like a leech within, that can't be removed. Sometimes ignorance, distraction, all of this can help you to get rid of your thoughts about a particular person, but most of the time making peace with them is the best solution. According to me, it's stupid to leave a person you love. No matter what the circumstances are, never ever leave the person you love the most only if you know they love you back. It'll all work out after a period of time. Giving up and moving on in such a situation will never give you a peace of mind. We always don't have to move on. You can cry thinking about that person, tell yourself as many times as possible that you miss them and you want them back. By doing this, you satisfy your thirst within rather than fighting back with it. As days go by your heart won't fight you, remind you, or make you cry anymore. It's time we understand something. If person goes from somebody's life, don't start telling them better people will come in, they don't want better people at that moment, they want their only person. Instead tell them they'll be back, it's not making a  false promise, it's satisfying their thirst externally. By satisfying their thirst you are actually helping them get back to normal. So it's basically not moving on, it's becoming normal all over again. Don't force yourself, let it loose, all your pieces will find its way back together. 

Disclaimer: These are only my thoughts, and it can truly be different for another person. 

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Do we actually change?

Past. Do you know the meaning of that? You do? What is it then?
'Gone by in time, and no longer existing'. Well, that's what wikipedia says. But for us it's not just something that is gone by time, it's a series of either good or bad memories that we all want to remember or forget. Our past makes us who we are now. If you were innocent and not any more, it's because of something that happened in your past. And since we change in course of time, we blame the past. How? I'll tell you. Supposing you cared a lot for someone in the past and one final day they just left never caring about you, gone by surprise you decide not to care for anybody any more. And again, you fall in the same pit and now you're totally done with caring about everybody around you. Is that even a solution? The problem here wasn't you caring, it was you caring for that particular person who wasn't trustworthy. This is what people forget, they forget the actual reason and take up the reason that is right in front of their eyes, because that is just easier to accept. You don't have to change your basic characters in you. People come and go. Sometimes we've to change in order to fit in the crowd, but that could just be temporary, sometimes you've to be fake in a society like this, or in other words I'll say, by being sweet to any and everybody you see. Things happen for a reason, they don't happen so that you change completely and lose out on yourself. You only think your happy and carefree after the change, but there is something known as inner self. For how long can you go on cheating that? One day you'll get fed up of what you've changed to because your basic character still lies within you. So stop getting into wrong conclusions. Stop blaming others for what has happened, and instead think of the mistake that you did. You always have a choice in life. You can choose to do it, or not to do it. Don't regret any of your choices later, they will always teach you lesson. When you realize you're the reason behind what has happened, it will be easy to take decisions and that way you won't jump into horrible conclusions.