Do we really have to move on?

There are many people who left our lives, with or without an actual reason and is it really necessary to 'move on'? After every break up I hear people say, I think it's time to move on. What do you mean by that? Force yourself to stop loving that person? Force yourself not to care about them? Force yourself to take them out of your mind? Do you think that's the right way to deal with life? You can distract your thoughts only for a short span of time. Those thoughts will keep coming back to you when your mind becomes ideal. So telling yourself to 'move on' will never work out. For either one of the person, it'll still be stuck like a leech within, that can't be removed. Sometimes ignorance, distraction, all of this can help you to get rid of your thoughts about a particular person, but most of the time making peace with them is the best solution. According to me, it's stupid to leave a person you love. No matter what the circumstances are, never ever leave the person you love the most only if you know they love you back. It'll all work out after a period of time. Giving up and moving on in such a situation will never give you a peace of mind. We always don't have to move on. You can cry thinking about that person, tell yourself as many times as possible that you miss them and you want them back. By doing this, you satisfy your thirst within rather than fighting back with it. As days go by your heart won't fight you, remind you, or make you cry anymore. It's time we understand something. If person goes from somebody's life, don't start telling them better people will come in, they don't want better people at that moment, they want their only person. Instead tell them they'll be back, it's not making a  false promise, it's satisfying their thirst externally. By satisfying their thirst you are actually helping them get back to normal. So it's basically not moving on, it's becoming normal all over again. Don't force yourself, let it loose, all your pieces will find its way back together. 

Disclaimer: These are only my thoughts, and it can truly be different for another person. 

Happy Reading! 

Do we actually change?

Past. Do you know the meaning of that? You do? What is it then?
'Gone by in time, and no longer existing'. Well, that's what wikipedia says. But for us it's not just something that is gone by time, it's a series of either good or bad memories that we all want to remember or forget. Our past makes us who we are now. If you were innocent and not any more, it's because of something that happened in your past. And since we change in course of time, we blame the past. How? I'll tell you. Supposing you cared a lot for someone in the past and one final day they just left never caring about you, gone by surprise you decide not to care for anybody any more. And again, you fall in the same pit and now you're totally done with caring about everybody around you. Is that even a solution? The problem here wasn't you caring, it was you caring for that particular person who wasn't trustworthy. This is what people forget, they forget the actual reason and take up the reason that is right in front of their eyes, because that is just easier to accept. You don't have to change your basic characters in you. People come and go. Sometimes we've to change in order to fit in the crowd, but that could just be temporary, sometimes you've to be fake in a society like this, or in other words I'll say, by being sweet to any and everybody you see. Things happen for a reason, they don't happen so that you change completely and lose out on yourself. You only think your happy and carefree after the change, but there is something known as inner self. For how long can you go on cheating that? One day you'll get fed up of what you've changed to because your basic character still lies within you. So stop getting into wrong conclusions. Stop blaming others for what has happened, and instead think of the mistake that you did. You always have a choice in life. You can choose to do it, or not to do it. Don't regret any of your choices later, they will always teach you lesson. When you realize you're the reason behind what has happened, it will be easy to take decisions and that way you won't jump into horrible conclusions. 

The life of 'itself'

I was born because of you, yes you and for you. My birth was sudden but, I was programmed forever and it took them a thousand centuries to design me for your purpose. They had to create 7 billion of me and none of which could be repeated. They sat for months to design just one of me and so they deleted the concept of 'repetition' as that would have crossed even more than a thousand centuries. I was categorised into various levels but every one of me had one happy part, one sad part, one amazing part and one disastrous part. I never understood why they had to create so many with different designs even though all had the same template, I mean they could've had the same design for everybody right? I felt like it was a waste of time, all of this. But then one day, I was assigned to different people who were like you. I don't know in which order I was allotted, but when I was, I was born again. Everything started from first, but this time it went according to the design they had installed in me. I tried telling you all how this was going to work, but every time I did you thought that it was just a headache and never tried to listen to me. You would've put some burning medicine on me thinking you can shut me up, but you did not know that I was a rebel just like you. I used to watch you cry sometimes, jump with joy, hurt yourself, eat lots of food and I was always confused on the talents that you had. You would be so different from day to day and I always wondered why you have still not met a psychologist. When I know you were going to get into trouble I tried to warn you, but you just ignored the thought and carried on with your work and later blamed me saying I was the reason behind all of this. But, but, I told you. Why didn't you listen to me? I was there for you always trying to tell you what was next. If only you had listened to me you could've destroyed my design and played a game with it and would've spent your time in a better way than sitting in sadness. You little rebel, I pity you. But, if you want to live happily you have to listen to me, if not I'm gonna sit there and face palm every time you landed into trouble. 

I am life, I will guide you in the right path if you ever listen to me. Trust me, human. 

They will judge you, but you are good

I've seen so many people put up statuses saying 'They will judge you no matter what' and this particular line has made me upset so many times. Of course, I too know that people judge, that's human nature. You see somebody wear branded clothes, you think they are rich and they live in a palace, maybe after all they live in a normal house. You see somebody wear short clothes and think maybe she is the 'outgoing type' or the 'slutty type', maybe she's an NRI, you never know.
And then, there are some people who put up statuses saying 'I don't care if they judge me', of course you care. If you don't really care you wouldn't be telling it to the world, there would be no necessity. I accept that people judge you,even if you cover your face completely. They'll think that you're a very closed person and socially very weak whereas you might be covering only because its sunny outside. 
I have personally observed something, what people show outside is what their inner character is too, some where deep inside a part of it will be lying there along with them. This theory doesn't always have to prove right nor does it prove that they are a bad person. What you do makes you bad or good. And what you do is based on your surroundings and the circumstances that you go through. We all want to look good in front of others, and that is basically everything that we care about. If they're judging you for who you are, why does it affect you? If you're trying to impersonate someone and are not being yourself, that's when what others think will even matter to you. There is always a difference between 'I don't care' and 'It doesn't matter to me'. But even then, since we are all  human beings what others say definitely matter to us, but when they judge you, it doesn't hurt you or bother you because that is how you are and you truly accept it. Having self-respect is one more important aspect when it comes to being judged.What you show outside to the world maybe isn't your true nature,but I believe in one thing, you can't show something outside without actually being that kind of a person deep down in your heart. Now that doesn't make you a bad person, it's just a theory that I've made after many experiences. So, what I want to say is, if you are happy with who you are don't be afraid that they're going to judge you, just for a minute think and see, the people who judge you are going to be judged too. So just laugh and let it go. If you are confident with who you are, they won't bother you. 

DISCLAIMER: This is only my opinion. I've not tried to state anything over here. If you think it's true, good enough, I'm glad I was able to help you. If not, never mind, you can live your life the way you want. 

Why do you wish to be a carbon copy?

We as human beings are always inspired by someone or the other. When we take inspiration, we grow to become someone better than who we are today. When you take inspiration from someone you just tend to take the morals and values of that person but not exactly become them. Now that's the difference between taking inspiration and copying. Often replicating someone is unintentional. It is nothing but the next stage of inspiration or you can say when your brain has just taken a nap and cannot differentiate between inspiration and originality. 
Sometimes people misunderstand the meaning of these two words and literally play monopoly with their lives. Now even though that isn't the right game to mention, let's just take that anyway. Be inspired by the way they are, but don't try to become them, because you're unique and you cannot be replaced by anyone else. Your thoughts, actions, aims, creativity, nothing of that can be done by another person. Believe in that first. Believe that whoever you are you have a special power which no one else in this world has and that only by being yourself you can achieve it. Being with someone just to get someone that you cannot achieve alone is not success. Success is knowing your imperfections and making your perfections more stronger than before in order to face the world. Inspiration is just the first step to success, but only by believing in yourself you can reach it.Don't try to be another person because at last you're gonna stand alone not knowing where you belong. No matter how imperfect you think you are, if you're just being yourself you'll find a place to fit in and will be identified. Take inspiration so that you can fix the right goals. Learn good morals and techniques followed by that person and implement by using your own brains. Live and let live. 

~ Aadhya Babu 

Was I born for a purpose?

If you are reading this, firstly, welcome to my blog. Secondly, put down whatever you are doing right now and ask yourself this question, "What am I doing? What is my purpose in life? Was I even born for a purpose?" Whether your answer is yes, no or I am not sure it doesn't matter, what you need to do is relax your muscles and continue reading this post. 
When you think life isn't going the way you wanted, take a cup of coffee and think "Why?". By asking the question why, you'll arrive at the conclusion that you don't know. Some people even forget why they had asked this question to themselves. We all know that life isn't always going to be the way we imagined it or wanted it to be, because come on, it's after all, life and it sure needs to have some ups and downs. By taking time for yourself and asking yourself the question 'Why?', you might sometimes get to realise what is the reason behind you having to face such complications. Many times we forget that we are the reason behind something that is happening to us, good or bad. Human tendency is to blame others, because self satisfaction is more important than acknowledging the truth. For once sit and analyse why your life is not in track, for once think what must you be doing wrong, for once forget about others and think only you exist. How does it feel? Not nice? You might just be playing a small role but it could be the real reason why your life is like this. When you accept that you are the real reason behind this problem, 90% of it is solved. The remaining 10% is left for you to use your brain and get out of it. When life gets complicated we forget why we are even here.That is when you have to understand that you are born for a purpose. A purpose that might change yours as well as others life. There is no useless person in this world except a person who hasn't tried.Without a few failures you will never be able to enjoy your success. Even when you have lost everything except yourself, it still means you are born for a purpose. Understand it. Wasting your time thinking I'm useless and nothing is going to change is going to lead you no where. You will only be telling others how ruined your life is but never look back to see that you were the reason behind all this time. Take some time for yourself and tell yourself you are born for a purpose, because more than anyone only your encouragement matters to your body. All those trillions of cells want to keep you happy and they try their best, your little encouragement will help them make you a better person. Even if no body loves you, they do. Not just one, but trillions. Everyone is born for a purpose so never give up and never go down. There will come a time when you will understand what your real purpose is, till then face life with a smile. 

When make up isn't used just for enhancing beauty anymore

So I've heard many people use this statement when I ask them, 'Why do you like to wear makeup?'
and 95% of them said it was because they felt that it enhances their beauty. But I never bothered to ask them how it does, because it was pretty much clear that they are wearing it to hide their dark circles.
I, personally, hate 'makeup'. Sometimes, just sometimes, on very rare occasions I take out my eyeliner, and mostly it's during a wedding. I don't own anything except a lip balm and an eyeliner, and that pretty much makes up my vanity kit.

'What is the neccesity to wear make up on daily basis?'
I don't really find any need to wear make up like everyday, because there's more to it behind the scenes. No matter what expensive brand you use, cosmetics are chemicals. Even if they say it contains 95% aloe vera extracts, it doesn't really make a difference. Because if it really does, then you can take an aloe vera stalk and directly apply it on your face instead.Makeup can be worn to highlight some pretty parts of your face, but using it to hide your flaws like every day? Isn't it like being fake always? I mean really, why can't you just show up your plain blank face? I bet a lot more people will respect you and only those who like your character will stay. That way, you are surrounded by less fake people who admire you only for the way you look, and there will be more real ones who will stay with you a lot more long or maybe forever. 

'Why makeup isn't just used to enhance beauty?'
Well, initially make up was invented to hide the flaws in your face and your body. And so it has evoloved itself.
Even an eyeliner today is worn today to distract people from your face, or nose or whatever. When I go to malls, or restaurant or to a theatre all I see is people caked up with two layers of makeup and trust me, I've gone without identifying a few of  my school mates because of this.

'How is it to be your real self?'
So I've seen in movies, and even in real life that girls find it a nightmare to step out of their houses without some basic makeup. Why? Just why should you be so insecure? Some people say that they wear make up to make themselves more confident or to impress themselves. Really? Can girls impress themselves or others only by wearing something fake? It is nice to be yourself. I'm not telling wearing make up is something wrong. It isn't necessary. Women aren't just meant to be pretty, we can be a Malala instead. To be known for your talent and your character gives you more pride then being known just for the 'Prettiest' and that includes, being pretty with a touch of makeup. 

Personal Note: This is a no hate post. It is just my personal judgement. I feel that women are being insecure about their looks when they can do wonders with the talent they have. Don't waste your talents and time going around trying to impress people. The world just doesn't work that way. Be confident with who you are and speak to the world. We are born to do something great, now just for cribbing about how we look.

My computer journey

When I was about 5 years old, my neighbour had bought a computer. To be honest, I wasn't very excited because I was too small to understand or realise what a computer was. I still remember that day when I was given a special chair to sit on. My neighbour opened Microsoft Word and started typing random things, but when I tried I couldn't type more than one letter. When I got back home I told my mother about all that happened and how my neighbour could type one while sentence whereas I could only type a single letter. She started boasting saying how fast she can type. But I hardly lent a ear to her. I was just admiring my friend's amazing typing skills. 

A year or two later,  we got our own computer. My mom only taught me how to use Microsoft Word and paint. At first I used only the pencil tool. Later when I came to 3rd grade, my computer science teacher taught me how to use spray paint and I just loved the technique. And well, that's all that I remember about paint and Word. I have no idea from where and how this thing called Internet had come and how I started using it, but look where I am now. Google. Mails. YouTube. Blogging. Facebook. This and that. When my mother first created an email ID I was so excited. She used to send me mails almost everyday from office because only she knew my ID. And then slowly I learnt what Google was and how it was as equal to Hermione from Harry Potter. My best friend was the reason I started blogging, four years back. She is an aspiring writer and had inspired me or I must say kindled my inner talent. I owe her a lot. Two years back, during my summer holidays I started using the Internet more as I may didn't have another work,  and that's when I came to know about YouTube. I may say it is one of reason's why I'm motivated and happy today. It had definitely made me a beget person. The latest I've found out is about Fashion Blogging which I'm in love with. This journey of computer has changed my life.